I am far more concerned that someone who needs help won't get it, than I am that someone who doesn't "deserve" help might.

But you know, I'm just a little socialist, idealist dreamer who doesn't know anything about what I really believe.

Thank you, Facebook. You've successfully restored my disinterest in humanity.
The level of seething hatred I still harbour for my old job worries me sometimes. Like, I know it's pointless to hold onto, and I can accept that it's not healthy, but that doesn't stop me from wanting to scream and scream and scream at the people I used to work for. Sometimes I still have dreams where I DO.

Can you have PTSD from an office job? Because I think I might.
"It's just a yearbook, it's just a prom, it's just a word, it's just a job, it's just a school, it's just a difference in salary, it's not important, why are you making such a big deal about this, it's just amazon restricting GLBT books, it's just a con thing where you wear a button if you don't want your tits groped, it's just a novel that erases an entire people, it's just some guys exploiting women's sexuality in a survey, it's just a pronoun he/she/it why is that offensive, why are you upset, it's just a tv show, it's just a movie that's just fantasy, it's ironic, you're a credit to your..., stop whining and wait, things will change be patient, be patient, be patient, it's not a big deal. It's just, you know. Your life. Get used to it.

Correct me if I'm wrong, but this generational thing? Is this supposed to be like, working? I'm just curious, is all."

-[livejournal.com profile] seperis: stop me if you've heard this one already

That used to be the center console of my poor wee car. And my window. *siiiiiiiiiigh* Someone completely destroyed my car to steal a $150 stereo. The CD player didn't even work.

Please note that this has absolutely nothing to do with yesterday's car fun, where a woman in a Mercedes SUV couldn't be bothered to put her seatbelt on BEFORE she started driving, and rear-ended me. (I am fine. Car...car WAS fine.)

Fuck this week. It's so, SO fired.
I'm a firm believer that you have the right to alter your own body in whatever way you see fit. Have at it.

Caution, the link and discussion in this post may be upsetting to animal lovers, or anyone who isn't a complete asshole. )

I will say, in case anyone was too squeamish to read the link, that the kittens in question are okay now.

People are sick bastards.
an_sceal: (Live nude women)
Here, read this first- it's about the OpenSource Breast Project.

(The basic idea, from a really biased onlooker, is that men should now be applauded for walking up to women at cons and asking to grope them. Again- I am biased, you should read the original content.)

I could say something about the sexism- can I walk up to every man I see at a con and ask to stick my hand in his pants? (Ew. I would not want to, but that isn't the point.)

I think what I really want to say is that when you are at a con, with friends you don't see all the time, and people you may never interact with other than online, you often find yourself in a headspace that is very removed from your normal boundaries. Many (though certainly not all by any means!) women who interact within fannish circles consider themselves less than physically ideal, or are shy, or have trouble with self esteem issues. When you're involved in the high-energy buzz of a gathering like a con, it's generally much easier to step away from those feelings. Sometimes that can be great. What I see with this "project" is the chance for a lot of women to be put in a situation where they will feel forced to say yes, and then find themselves feeling violated later. In an ideal world, I'm sure no cajoling would take place, no woman would feel like she had to go along with it or be seen as standoffish, not sex positive, or simply not as "cool" as everyone else in the group.

This isn't an ideal world, and this project does not offer anything that will make it one, despite using that as a battle cry. This speaks to me of men who think they have the right to make every woman answer, at any point, "Is it okay if I touch you an an intimate way, but pretend that it's just to make you feel empowered?" Entitled much, gentlemen? What makes it okay for a random stranger to approach a woman in a public setting, and ask for something that IS SEXUAL, when she has no reason to expect such a question? A lot of people use cons as a place to party, no denying that, and how long before some drunk fanboy asks someone who isn't wearing a button, some woman who has done nothing more overtly welcoming than share a hallway or an elevator?

I think what really makes me the most annoyed though, is that for all the claim that this isn't meant to objectify or pressure women who aren't interested? At the core, that's all it does. Because you know what? If I'm at a con, hanging out with my friends, I SHOULDN'T HAVE TO ADVERTISE WHETHER OR NOT I SHOULD BE APPROACHED TO BE GROPED. It creates an immediate level of discomfort that I should not have to be a part of, by suggesting that if I don't make my wishes known, it's okay to ask me if you can touch me in an intimate manner. It's another thing to add to the list of things that every woman must watch out for. Don't be alone in the hallway. Don't walk across the parking lot at night by yourself. Don't expect not to be critiqued for your appearance. Don't have a drink, because it might not be safe to go back to your room alone. Don't go to a convention unless you're prepared to have someone ask to touch your breasts.


For the record- any of these situations could happen at any time, amongst any group of people. And I actually think that amongst a smaller population of people who knew ahead of time that this would be happening, it could be acceptable. However, I also know how many people read this guy's blog, and I think advocating this kind of behaviour take place at Dragon*Con is not only irresponsible, but downright appalling. If it makes even one woman rethink her safety or comfort level in attending a convention, then it's done exactly what he supposedly argues against.

(Original link from [livejournal.com profile] nestra)
My company is very small, and rather incestuous. It seems as though nearly every employee has some connection to everyone else, be it family, fuck, or foe. Currently, the service manager's assistant (who is also her daughter...) is feuding with one of the mechanics, who is her ex-fiance and the father of her baby. Every time they have a blow up, K, who is supposed to be acting as the manager while her mom the service manager is on vacation, goes into her office and screams and won't take phone calls. The mechanic, M, has given his notice, so he's been slacking on jobs and not bothering to do things properly, leading to customers calling for the service manager, not being able to speak to K, and getting even more upset.

Grow up. Get the fuck over it. And leave it at HOME.

The longer I am at this job, the further it gets from what I was promised it would be.

Did you know you can work at IKEA for two days a week and still qualify for full benefits?


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